The Podcast
Wait... can you say that?!
For a field that prides itself on helping people talk about things that nobody else talks about, there are a lot of things we don’t talk about. And by "we," I mean therapists. Things that don’t fit with the image of the “good therapist” that lives in our heads—or in the heads of other therapists.
On A Therapist Can’t Say That, we get real about what it’s really like to do this job.
We’re going to unpack the cliches you’ve assumed every other therapist believes, and speak out loud the thoughts you’ve thought no other therapist has had. We’re going to let it get messy, complicated, and uncomfortable. And we’re going to say it’s okay for therapists to disagree—even in public—without immediately accusing each other of being unethical.
Season 3 Ep 2: Finding Our Place in the Lineage of Therapeutic Practice
Contending with therapy’s history opens a dialogue between ourselves and our forebears in ways that move the profession forward and bring us together in solidarity and kinship. And that is a project worth taking on.
Season 3 Ep 1: Between Mysticism and Modernity: Reclaiming the Jewishness of Therapy with hannah baer
If you go down a list of the founders and early theorists of therapy, you’ll find that many of them were Jews. Writer and therapist hannah baer, joins me to fig into therapy’s Jewish roots.
Introducing The Kiln: Revolutionizing The Therapy Training Landscape
Riva and Dr. K Hixson have joined up to create The Kiln, a comprehensive supervision and training program for pre-licensed therapists in Oregon.
Season 2 Ep 12: 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 2
To wrap up season two of A Therapist Can’t Say That, I’m continuing my reflections on my ten years as a therapist.
Season 2 Ep 11: 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 1
After ten years of being a therapist, when the work I do has become part of the mundane fabric of my day, I still remember so clearly the magic of being so in it with my first client. So today, I’m reflecting on ten years of being in this field.
Season 2 Ep 10: Client Relationships in the Trenches: The Role of Self-Validated Intimacy
Today, I’m digging why so many parentified children end up in this field, and how the drives of the parentified child help and hinder us in this work.
Season 2 Ep 9: Immediacy in Therapy: Breaking the Fourth Wall with Dr. K Hixson
Today, my dear friend and colleague K Hixson returns for a conversation about immediacy and why we believe that it is such a potent tool.
Season 2 Ep 8: Paradox, Love, and the Therapeutic Journey
Inspired by my conversation in the last episode with Dr. Andrea Celenza, today I want to talk about tolerating paradoxes and about love in the context of therapy.
Season 2 Ep 7: Let's Talk About Sex: A Humane Approach to Sexual Boundary Violations with Dr. Andrea Celenza
To guide us in wrestling with this very fraught subject in a deeper, broader, and more generative way, I am so excited to bring you my conversation with psychologist and author Dr. Andrea Celenza.
Season 2 Ep 6: The Vulnerability of the Therapist as Client
Being in therapy as a therapist, and being a therapist for therapists, is a bit like magicians trying to entertain each other. We’ve studied the tricks and techniques. We’ve seen behind the curtain and we can’t pretend otherwise.
Season 2 Ep 5: Behind the Scenes: When Therapists Become Clients with Dr. Elena Herrera
Why is it so hard to be in therapy as a therapist? Why is it so hard sometimes to be a therapist for other therapists? I’ve been wanting to do an episode on therapists as clients since I conceived of this show, so I’m excited to share my conversation with Dr. Elena Herrera today.
Season 2 Ep 4: What Happens When Our Clients Encounter Our Humanity?
I’m digging into why it feels so vulnerable to share our life circumstances with our clients, why our fears of rupture when we have to might be exaggerated, and how cultural expectations of therapists as aspirational figures impact how our clients perceive us and what we do.
Season 2 Ep 3: Normalizing Vulnerability: The Power of Authenticity in Client Relationships with Onyx Fujii and Asher Pandjiris
What opportunities for connection with our clients are being lost when we perform what today’s guests describe as a “constructed state of perpetual well-being?”
Season 2 Ep 2: Deep Play: Exploring the Therapeutic Playground
When you set out to look at the topic of setting goals in therapy in anything more than a superficial light, you relatively quickly start running into the question of what therapy is.
Season 2 Ep 1: Balancing Goals and Healing in Therapy: Navigating the Tension with Silvana Espinoza Lau
Silvana Espinoza Lau and I talk about how we determine and assess where we’re actually trying to go with clients, the importance of paying attention to all of the different agendas that inform a client’s stated goals, and how we can use connection and curiosity as our guideposts.
Season 1 Ep 18: Therapists as Makers of Culture
I’m becoming more aware of how important I think it is that as therapists–all of us, clinical supervisors or not–we cultivate an understanding of ourselves as makers of culture.
Season 1 Ep 17: The Intimacy and Aliveness of Clinical Supervision with K Hixson
Dr. K Hixson has made clinical supervision and training supervisors a cornerstone of their practice, and the conversation you're going to hear us having today is born out of a shared vision for what clinical supervision has the potential to be.
Season 1 Ep 16: Marketing With Integrity
On episode 15, creative director and brand strategist Rachael Kay Albers said something that I have been turning over and over in my mind since: Marketing artificially accelerates the pace of human relationships.
Season 1 Ep 15: Is Ethical Marketing Possible? with Rachael Kay Albers
How do we market ethically? What does it actually mean to be authentic in our marketing? Is there any way to do this without feeling icky or like we’re selling ourselves?